First date conversations may seem routine, but if you meet your date through an online dating serving, you will probably know basic facts about one another before the actual first date. So finding something to talk about on the first date can be stressful.
Conversations to Avoid:
*Past relationships. No date likes to be compared to past dates or hear about other guys all night. Down the road there may be a time when it's right to discuss past relationships, but not on the first date.
*Medical problems. Unless it is obvious that you have a health problem, you do not need to explain any ailments to your date. Even if you do have an obvious problem, state the cause simple and move on. Dwelling on pain and frustration can make you sound like a whiner, even if you deserve to whine a little.
*Family issues. We all have a relative who embarrasses us, someone in the family who is a black sheep or people we have chosen to part with for one reason or another.
*Heavy topics. Discussing divorce, death, loss of a loved one or even tear-jerkers you've heard on the news is not appropriate for first dates. Simply mentioning you are divorced or you lost your brother in a car accident is fine if he asks, but don't continue on with details. It will only upset you and make him uncomfortable. Save these conversations for when you know each other better and he can comfort you.
*Self-esteem issues. Most guys don't care if you have a blemish or if you are a little overweight. They enjoy being with a person who shows confidence. Even if you don't love yourself unconditionally, don't point out what you believe are your flaws to your date on the first night.
*Sex. While harmless flirting is almost expected on the first date, openly discussing sex is off-limits. Don't discuss past sexual experiences, positions you prefer, things you are looking forward to doing with your date, etc. Keep the conversation more fun and flirty rather than hot and heavy.
*Marriage and kids. Nothing sends a man running faster than a woman expressing her need to bear children before her biological clock stops ticking. Never bring up your ideas about love, marriage and making a family with a man on the first date. There will be plenty of time to discuss your plans for the future much further down the road.
*Other dates. Never discuss past or scheduled dates with other guys while out on a first date. If all goes well, you will be able to cancel any future dates you have arranged, but don't chance screwing it up by telling him you're playing the field.
What you can do is plan your date around a new experience for you both so you can always return to conversation about the experience when you notice an uncomfortable silence.
