Good Date or Bad Date? You are about to learn one key way to make better relationship choices. Relationships and Trust are two big pillars at the foundation of any successful relationship. Just ask yourself a few quick questions. Have there been times when you are about to go out on a date with someone you think is special and you have this small gnawing feeling in the pit of your stomach? Perhaps it is a person you have gone out with a few times and really enjoyed yourself. Maybe one of your friends introduced you to him (or her) and this friend has never steered you wrong before. Or, one of your co-workers who demonstrates excellent decision-making skills asked you to meet a friend they are sure will be a good fit for you. What if any of this was the case, but you still have this uneasy feeling? What should you do? By all means trust your instincts!! You are built with a keen insight and ability to know what is right for you. I am not talking about anything spooky and kooky, I am just talking about the way we as humans are wired. You may have practiced overlooking it for a long time. You may have a history of poor relationship choices to the point where you don't think you know what is right. If that is the case, it is time to sit back and get better acquainted with you. If you learn to trust and develop that inner voice, you will fare better in many areas of your life. You may be asking yourself, how can I work on trusting my instincts? Let's say you are currently getting to know a person online. This is a safe way to practice because you are under no obligation to answer any emails that come to you. If you are exchanging basic information and you get a gut feeling that something is just not right, trust your gut feeling or whatever you choose to call it. It is about learning to trust YOU. You may be talking to a person that is all wrong for you - perhaps even dangerous. You can apply this with people you are meeting face to face. It doesn't matter how beautiful she is or how handsome he looks, pay close attention to what is going on inside of you. I am not talking about butterflies in your stomach. Get past that. I am talking about paying attention to the tone of your conversation, any sexual overtones or any behavior that is questionable to you. If you ever feel uncomfortable, don't overlook it or ignore it. Most likely, you should bring things to a halt before feelings or attachment makes it harder to let go. IF you are dating online, it is easy enough to do. If you are dating face to face, there are many tactful ways to bow out gracefully from any relationship. |
