Millionaire Dating Tips

Ever wonder why the man you're dating and having an amazing time with doesn't call you very often?

Or worse... stops calling altogether?

If you've ever had this happen to you with a man, then you know how FRUSTRATING it can be when a man just suddenly stops calling for what seems like no good reason...

And you've spent more time than you'd like to admit wondering what happened and what YOU might have done wrong.

Most women in this situation fall into a kind of trap that seems to work against them...

Instead of recognizing that the man not calling is an important signal in of itself, they become obsessed with wanting to know what he's thinking and WHY he's acting this way.

But most women also know on an intuitive level that coming out and actually asking a man why he's acting this way wouldn't bring about anything good.

And guess what?

Their intuition is right.

With most men in this situation, if you want to connect with a man and grow closer, then the answer is NOT to try and get him to talk about his thoughts and feelings.

It's time you learned what it really means if a man isn't calling... and what to do about it to quickly "turn the tables" in your favor so that he's the one calling and asking you out.

I'll share this with you, but first I want you to read this email I got recently from a reader about this exact kind of situation.

Know Who You're Seeing

Ascertain the kind of man you’re dealing with as soon as possible. This needs to be done tactfully. Ask questions to “authenticate him” and to find out who he is. A man should be willing to tell you what he does for a living and who he works for. If he says he’s “in business for himself”, ask what the name of his company is and ask what they do. (Women may wish to be more circumspect about where they work until they feel good about a guy which might take fifteen minutes or two or three dates. You probably do not want the guy showing up unannounced at work.) Ask where he lives.

If you feel a man is being very coy, I wouldn’t see him again. Most men have little to fear from women and should be open with you. Not being open may signal that he doesn’t do what he says, doesn’t want to tell you where he works or lives or is a man who doesn’t want to be identified. Having a man tell you “I work on Wall Street” doesn’t tell you very much. He may also be married, masquerading as single. Learn enough about a guy so that he could be “checkable”, even if you do not do it. Of course, if you know somebody who works at his company or lives in his area, tactfully ask about him, or have someone else help. You might get a good report, which can be encouraging, or you might learn something that will cause you to cross him off the list. “Men of mystery” may sound fine in movies and in books, but in the real world, know who you are dealing with as best as you can.

Personal Safety

If you exercise caution and prudence about who you go out with, and the situations you are in, most of the time the men you date will be gentlemen and personal safety will not be a dating issue. If you feel that a man's behavior is improper, say so. If he tries anything that is not welcome, be very firm in saying no. If he persists, tell him that "No means no. I expect to be treated like a lady." Never go anywhere isolated with someone you do not know well.

Watch your drink if you need to leave the bar or table. Some men have been known to slip drugs into them. If there is only a little of your drink left, finish it before you get up. Be careful how much you drink. It can affect how you act and respond.

Hopefully, you will never have to resort to the use of personal protection devices on a date, or any other time, but it is something you should consider. One safety device all women should have is a cell phone. Leave the phone on when you are out. Many of them are already programmed, or can be programmed, that when you push and hold on the "9", or other programmed key, it will automatically dial "911". Other personal protection products include pepper sprays and high decibel alarms. The products are available from many sources,including the link shown below. Check with a police officer or attorney in your community to ascertain what the law is with respect to the use of personal protection devices. It is against the law to take pepper sprays on an aircraft. Any products designed to further ensure your safety are ones you should take the time to consider.

There is also a digital pedometer/alarm which measures distance and calories burned which has a pull cord which when activated produces a loud panic alarm. Stay fit and safer at the same time. This product was mentioned in "Health Magazine" for women. It struck me as a very sensible, and additionally useful, safety device.

There are also a number of personal safety videos for women, self defense courses and other manners of protection you may wish to consider.

Always wear your seat belt and lock your car doors. Both will offer you greater protection in an accident. I was hit by a hit and run driver. My car was totalled when I lost control and went into a concrete median. If I hadn't had my seat belt on, I would not be writing this now. Be safety conscious.

I mention this as a matter of general safety, not specifically relating to dating. While there is no perfect advice on this point, a video developed by a former City of Chicago police officer recommended that if you ever are threatened by someone with a weapon ordering you to come with him, it is better to make your stand right there at "Location #1". Run and scream "Fire!", not "Help!" which people are more likely to ignore. If you are grabbed, use pepper spray, a personal alarm, gouge eyes, scream "Fire", bite, kick or do whatever you have to do. It is no time to be "a lady". The location an assailant would take a victim to, "Location #2", is only going to be more isolated and therefore more dangerous. I've mentioned these things not to unduly alarm you, but so you will think safety, be forewarned and better prepared.

Never walk in dark areas or stay in buildings where you are alone. Being "street smart" involves staying out of harm's way.

Always make sure that there is at least one person who knows that you are going on a date and when and where you are supposed to meet and what time you expect to be back. If you feel it is a situation where you don't want anyone else to know, write information out and leave it in your home or apartment in plain enough view for someone who might later need to look for it. If you are going out and a guy is picking you up in his car initially, or takes you out in it later in the evening, when you go to the lady's room or are someplace private, leave the car's license number, where you are and your date's name on an answering device at home or at work. You should always have your own cell phone with you, and again never go anyplace lonely with anyone you don't know well. As an additional precaution, if you know anyone in law enforcement, show them what I have written and ask for their advice about anything else that they, in their professional experience, feel that you should do to protect yourself.

 

Our mothers and grandmothers didn’t seem to have much trouble finding a husband so why are so many women now complaining they find it almost impossible to find Mr Right?

Time and technology marches on but surely human relationships have remained the same since time began?

Well no, not really.

We only need to look to other cultures to see how different courting rituals are around the world in present days and I do believe we can learn something from arranged marriages but that’s another story.

So has it really become more difficult to find a husband in the past 50 years or have the goal posts simply moved?

Statistics in the UK show that single men outnumber single women by a considerable number, with over a million more single men than women, so why on earth are some women finding it impossible to find a husband?

Here are three reasons your Grandma found a husband but you can’t:

1. The Economy

Our Grandmothers were much more practical people, with “romantic notions” being reserved for the silver screen or a hot cocoa while you read Mills and Boon.

When it came to finding a husband they looked for a provider, a man with a steady income, clean habits and someone their mother approved of. A boring young bank clerk was considered a good catch because he could be a branch manager one day.

Dating opportunities were often limited to the Saturday night dance at the local church hall.

Likewise our Grandfathers grew up knowing they would leave school, find work and then start a family .. it’s just how life went. Playboys were rich and belonged to the upper class.

The economic boom of the eighties and early to mid nineties meant that Steve, the local estate agent, could live a cheap version of a playboys life.

He had his own “bachelor pad”, car, went clubbing every night and could sleep with as many girls as he could cope with (or would say yes) … why on earth would he want to give that up and swap it for a life of nagging and nappies?!

In short our economic situation allowed us to be far more fussy about who we chose as a life partner and therefore limited the number of potential candidates.

2. Technology

I remember my Grandma telling me about my great aunt (the family hussy because she married 4 times), as an actress she went off to Berlin and met, then married husband number three … ooo the shame of it.

For her generation the choice of men was usually limited to their own town or social circle, which limited their expectations.

For us the world is our slimy mollusc, we can now log on to the internet and in seconds be searching dating website databases with a few million members.

But surely that is good news, more people to choose from? Erm, no.

Suddenly the fella down our street seems a lot less attractive when there are chaps out there with sexy French accents or smouldering South American eyes.

So while we sit waiting for Antonio Banderas to come and serenade us Malcolm from down the road met some French tart and went to live in Paris.

We are essentially ignoring what is realistically on offer locally because we’re sure there is something far more exciting on offer in far off lands (or at least in another city).

3. Granny Held Out

My father often jokes about having spent a whole year trying to get his hand up my mothers jumper … bless him, he never managed it but wow did he have fun trying and he couldn’t wait to marry my mother to sample her delights.

Then the sexual revolution hit town and terms like ‘one night stand’ and ‘co-habitation’ entered our vocabulary.

Even my mothers generation had the sense to know you can lead a man anywhere, even to the altar, by his privates.

Just browse the internet and see how many times women ask how long they should wait until they sleep with a man (a week, a month, 3 months) …. our Grandma’s had a simple answer to this question …. until he puts a wedding ring on your finger.

Women’s liberation has given us so many choices, many our Grandmothers would never have thought of but in reality they settled for less and found it easier to find a husband.

We now want the whole nine yards and then sit back and wonder why we can’t find a husband. That doesn’t mean we should all settle for the first person to turn up and ask us on a date but perhaps we should be taking a leaf out of Grandma’s book and being a little more practical about our search for a husband.